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Survival of the Friendliest: Why We Love Insiders and Hate Outsiders By Brian Hare, Vanessa Wood

Updated: Nov 8, 2020

About the Book


Humans have evolved to be an inherently social species. Throughout history, our ability to survive has depended on cultivating social skills, interpersonal communication, and mutually supportive communities. Unfortunately, our hard-wired tendency to bond with those close to us can also make us wary of outsiders who seem threatening to us. To build a more peaceful world, we should strive to form friendships with those around us, even if they seem different on the surface.


What I Love About It


Quotes to Remember


Humans have evolved special cognitive skills to help us cooperate


Friendliness is a genetic trait that corresponds to greater communication abilities


The friendly bonobo shows all the telltale signs of self-domestication


Human evolution seems to have favoured friendliness


Our brains have evolved to form powerful social bonds, even with strangers


We can foster tolerance with close, casual contact with others


Our treatment of animals mirrors our treatment of each other



How I Can Apply Its Content to my Life


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